June 24, 2018, 4:45 am
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.5072 Argentine Peso
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.01417 British Pound
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.87956 Gambian Dalasi
1 Philippine Peso = 169.07178 Guinea Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 0.14072 Guatemala Quetzal
1 Philippine Peso = 3.87599 Guyana Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.14741 Hong Kong Dollar
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1 Philippine Peso = 22.24728 Iraqi Dinar
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1 Philippine Peso = 2.03401 Nepalese Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02719 New Zealand Dollar
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.0609 Papua New Guinea Kina
1 Philippine Peso = 1 Philippine Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 2.28222 Pakistani Rupee
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1 Philippine Peso = 106.55769 Paraguayan Guarani
1 Philippine Peso = 0.06839 Qatar Rial
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1 Philippine Peso = 1.18236 Russian Rouble
1 Philippine Peso = 15.96073 Rwanda Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 0.07046 Saudi Arabian Riyal
1 Philippine Peso = 0.1479 Solomon Islands Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.25235 Seychelles Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 0.33738 Sudanese Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.16635 Swedish Krona
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02551 Singapore Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01417 St Helena Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.41725 Slovak Koruna
1 Philippine Peso = 149.94363 Sierra Leone Leone
1 Philippine Peso = 10.72905 Somali Shilling
1 Philippine Peso = 394.98309 Sao Tome Dobra
1 Philippine Peso = 0.16441 El Salvador Colon
1 Philippine Peso = 9.67644 Syrian Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.25202 Swaziland Lilageni
1 Philippine Peso = 0.61856 Thai Baht
1 Philippine Peso = 0.04882 Tunisian Dinar
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.12682 Trinidad Tobago Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.56924 Taiwan Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 42.63435 Tanzanian Shilling
1 Philippine Peso = 0.49267 Ukraine Hryvnia
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.01879 United States Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.59451 Uruguayan New Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 147.50094 Uzbekistan Sum
1 Philippine Peso = 1499.4363 Venezuelan Bolivar
1 Philippine Peso = 430.10147 Vietnam Dong
1 Philippine Peso = 2.07159 Vanuatu Vatu
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.25241 South African Rand
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Enablers and disablers

There are two kinds of people who do unquantifiable — and many times — irreparable damage to themselves and others: enablers and disablers. In some cases, they know what they’re doing. Meaning, they’re basically manipulative. In other cases, in a warped sense of the word, they do it to “survive.” But whatever the underlying motives are, the results are always disastrous.

Enablers are people who allow you to do whatever you like without having to take the consequences for it — like a parent who always pays for his son’s maxed-out credit card. Or a mom who gives a monthly allowance to a daughter who refuses to work. Or a boyfriend who keeps lending his car to his girlfriend who bangs up her car every three months or so. Or a sister who writes her brother’s term paper for him because she’s scared that he’ll flunk.

An enabler is someone who generally rescues someone else from his responsibilities; bails him out when he’s in trouble; doesn’t let him suffer the consequences of his wrong choices; or simply allows someone to boss him around and treat him like a slave.

An enabler will do the dirty work for you. He’ll clean up your mess for you. He’ll allow you to treat him like dirt — just so you’ll keep him around.

An enabler needs to be needed. In a way, he’s a manipulator. He tries to keep himself attached to someone by being indispensable. But of course, we know that at the end of the day, no one is indispensable.

Parents who are enablers will definitely cripple their kids. Enablers, as a rule, raise losers. It’s a no-brainer. Kids become losers when they’re allowed to be lazy instead of hard-working. Kids become losers when someone always bails them out — so they grow up entitled, irresponsible, arrogant. Kids become losers when they’re not allowed to suffer the consequences of their wrong choices. They might even grow up to be criminals — because they were never taught the law of sowing and reaping, of cause and effect. Of rewards and penalties.

Enablers prevent their victims from realizing or reaching their potentials. By doing most everything for them, their codependent never learns to use his brains and muscles — so they atrophy and degenerate from lack of use. They lack ambition. They lack drive. They imagine all sorts of excuses for not even trying. And they usually end up loathing the very people who enable them to do the wrong, unproductive, destructive things they’re doing.

If you’re a parent who’s raising a loser and a spoiled brat, if you’re someone who’s in a codependent relationship, stop it right now. You’re doing serious, long-term damage to yourself and others. Manipulating someone to use you and need you is tantamount to creating an addiction where you’re the poison of choice. 

An enabler has no sense of self-worth. Has very low self-esteem. Or might even have concealed self-loathing and a pattern of self-abasement; a severe lack of self-respect.

A disabler, on the other hand, is someone who does just that — he disables a person from being useful, productive, from reaching his potentials, from believing in himself. A disabler is constantly negative. Constantly criticizes and puts down his victim. Constantly tears down someone’s self-confidence. Constantly bullies his victim into submission and self-destruction.

Parents who are disablers are easy to identify. They abuse their children physically, verbally, emotionally, psychologically. This is how you raise a serial killer. This is how you raise a serial child molester, a pedophile. Or an adult sexual molester, rapist, sex addict. This is how you raise people who will also deal violently with their family. 

Kids learn, early on, to numb their pain by doing something so despicable that it destroys all sense of human dignity in them. They defile others because they, themselves, have been defiled. However, this isn’t an excuse. It’s an explanation.

I’ve seen the long- and short-term effects of being with enablers and disablers. Both are very efficient agents of destruction. Enabling can sometimes be subtle. But disabling definitely is not. But both kinds of dysfunction create crippled victims or destructive monsters.

Whatever the outcome, the psycho-social carnage goes on. Think about it. Are you an enabler or a disabler? Can you see the tell-tale signs, the twisted thinking, the character flaws in your children? Your spouse? Your officemates? Your friends or classmates? If you know you’re in a codependent relationship, end it now. If it’s with a family member and you live under one roof, then it’s time for a paradigm shift. You need to put up your personal boundaries, and learn to respect other’s boundaries. 

An enabler or disabler will ultimately self-destruct. It’s only a question of time.
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